MEN'S MENTAL HEALTH
Life can throw us curveballs. Yet even when things seem tough, there’s a lot we can do to look after ourselves and others. That’s why we provide reliable, expert information to help men cope and live happier, healthier, longer lives –no matter what life throws at us.
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GIVE SUPPORT
Need help navigating a chat with someone who might be struggling? Use these simple tips to open and guide the conversation.
GET SUPPORT
If you’re feeling low or overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to reach out for support.
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ALEC
Four simple steps – use ALEC to help you navigate a conversation with a friend who might be doing it tough.
Our new tool ‘Movember Conversations’ gives you the confidence to have conversations with the men in your life who might be struggling.
Huge thanks to R U OK? for developing the ALEC model.
Ask
Start by asking how he’s feeling. It’s worth mentioning any changes you’ve picked up on. Maybe he’s spending more time at the bar, has gone quiet in the group chat, or isn’t turning up to social events. Whatever it is, he’s just not himself.Use a prompt like, "You haven’t seemed yourself lately – are you feeling OK?"
Trust your instinct. Remember, people often say "I'm fine" when they’re not, so don't be afraid to ask twice.
You can use something specific you’ve noticed, like, "It’s just that you haven’t been replying to my texts, and that’s not like you."
Listen
Give him your full attention. Let him know you’re hearing what he’s saying and you’re not judging. You don’t have to diagnose problems or offer solutions, but asking questions lets him know you’re listening.Ask a question like,
"That can't be easy – how long have you felt this way?"
Encourage Action
Help him focus on simple things that might improve how he feels. Is he getting enough sleep? Is he exercising and eating well? Maybe there’s something that’s helped him in the past – it’s worth asking.Suggest that he share how he’s feeling with others he trusts. This will make things easier for both of you. And if he’s felt low for more than two weeks, suggest that he chat to his doctor.
Check In
Suggest you catch up soon – in person if you can. If you can’t manage a meet-up, make time for a call, or drop him a message. This helps to show that you care; plus, you’ll get a feel for whether he’s feeling any better.Huge thanks to R U OK? for developing the ALEC model.
Movember Conversations gives you the confidence to have conversations with the men in your life who might be struggling.
GET SUPPORT
To speak with someone immediately, contact Pieta House on 1800 247 247 or Samaritans on 116 123.
If you're ever worried that someone's life is in immediate danger, call 999 or go directly to emergency services.
